Your Sexual Health is Super-Charged by the Natural Medicine of Humor

Giovanni Casanova (1725-1798) was an Italian adventurer, writer, soldier, musician, spy, and diplomat. Those accomplishments, however, have been historically overshadowed by Casanova’s reputation as a freewheeling sensualist. The term “Casanova” has come to represent a person of great sexual ability and indulgence.

The feeling that he wasn’t a “Casanova” and the thought that he should be, was what motivated Paul to seek my help. He was worried that he was letting his partner down sexually. Paul’s problem was not unique and it had an understandably common effect on his self-esteem and self-worth. Humans are sexual creatures, by nature, and the inability to enjoy healthy, appropriate sexual activity and/or sexual desire weighs heavily upon our holistic health and well-being.

When you are unable to enjoy appropriate sexual activity, your mind, body, and spirit feel off kilter because of your inherent sexual nature. You were born to have fun – and sex plays a large role in that. You deserve to have a regular, healthy expression of your sexual nature. It is fun and doesn’t need to harm or impose on anyone else.

Concerns regarding a lack of sexual activity, as well as a lack of sexual desire, are becoming more frequent each year. Consequently prescriptions for erectile dysfunction and low libido are growing at an astonishing rate. Perhaps part of that growth can be explained by a lessening of the stigma of reporting sexual problems, but we certainly know that the typical causes of sexual dysfunction are more common today than ever before. Putting aside diet and physical health, which can play a vital role in a healthy sexual lifestyle, the number one cause of sexual dissatisfaction is stress.

Stress-related illness is at an all-time high (and still growing), so it comes as absolutely no surprise that symptoms of stress are also prevalent. The good news for you is that we know what causes most of the debilitating stress you experience. Your stress is a direct byproduct of seriousness – taking yourself too seriously. As we move into adulthood, we unfortunately buy into the notion that responsible and productive people must be “serious.” As we make the biggest mistake of our lives and relegate our humor nature and fun to recreational activities (if we experience fun at all), we doom ourselves to all the symptoms of the corresponding seriousness that fills the void – declining health, rising stress, increased pain, lessened energy, impaired creativity, and more.

Even better news for you, however, is that we also know how to shrink your deadly seriousness to practically nothing and reduce almost completely the sway it holds over your health, vitality, wellness, and zest. The natural medicine of humor is an incredibly powerful resource that you already possess; you’ve only forgotten how to use it to maximum effectiveness. You will soon discover that, while not a panacea, the natural medicine of humor is a tremendous remedy for a variety of health concerns and will also supercharge other treatments because it is an amazing adjunctive medicine too!

I have distilled the natural medicine of humor, through my years of medical practice, into an amazing prescription I call The Fun Factor. Based on what I learned over twenty years ago from a terminally ill fifteen-year-old patient, I created a unique set of principles I call the Fun Commandments, then forged these Commandments into my Fun Factor prescription and have been prescribing The Fun Factor with great success for years. This report will show you how to use just three of my Fun Commandments to turn your sexual health and performance around, and gain new joy, pleasure, and appreciation from your sexual activity!

My first Fun Commandment has a profound effect on your sexual health because it is a fabulous introduction to the natural medicine of humor, in general: Go the Extra Smile. Smiling, as simple as it sounds, is a key to improved sexual appreciation because of its simplicity and almost constant appropriateness. A smile almost never offends and it is completely controllable, regardless of your circumstances; smiling is the easiest way to infuse yourself with the natural medicine of humor!

Smiling enhances your sexuality because it immediately decreases stress and fills you with energy and creativity. The best news about the positive effects of smiling is that these benefits are measurable even if you are wearing a “fake” smile. If you are thinking that lowering your stress level, while simultaneously snowballing your energy level and creativity, will add rocket fuel to your sexuality…you are absolutely correct!

Smiling has multiple benefits for your sexual health and wellness because it turbo-charges both your mood and your physiology. But smiling does another thing that accelerates your sexual satisfaction. It attracts reciprocal attention from your mate because a smile is an open invitation. Think of a smile as a happiness virus and you’ll soon realize that your improved sexual health, your reduced stress, and increased energy can be easily shared with your partner.

Another of my Fun Commandments that allows the natural medicine of humor to soup-up your sexuality is: Laugh with Yourself. Laughing with yourself is the epitome of self-acceptance, not self-denigration as you might’ve been led to believe. You cannot take yourself too seriously when you’re willing to laugh with yourself because you’re embodying the philosophy of taking yourself lightly.

Let’s face it, we are funny creatures and that’s how we’re supposed to be! Looked at objectively, our bodies are both fun and funny; the physical act of sex forces us to conjoin in some awkward and, almost, impractical ways. Giving ourselves permission to see the humor in our funny bodies and their functions eases the pressure we place on ourselves to perform sexually and our humor adds further fuel to our commitment to take ourselves less seriously.

Why wouldn’t we laugh out of sincere appreciation for our perfect imperfections and the funny physicality of sex? To not see the gentle, and sometimes obvious, humor in these things means we are taking ourselves, and our sexuality, way too seriously. It’s really all quite hilarious, in my opinion…we spend so much time, energy, and resources focusing on an act that takes less than 1% of our waking time. If we’re not careful this teeny, tiny portion of our day can dominate our culture and our personal thoughts! Not that you don’t have some good reasons to think about sex, but give yourself permission to gently laugh at your obsession and you’ll find some additional stress released.

The last Fun Commandment we’ll apply to your sexual health today is: Let Go Frequently. I always say that in life, as in juggling, success depends on how quickly you are able to let go. Also in life, as in juggling, we all have a tendency to hang on to things too long, even when they are no longer working for us. In this case, hanging on to our harsh expectations creates stress that deflates our sexuality because we are unable to measure up.

Society deluges us with images of youthful sexuality; it’s easy to imagine that everyone except us is engaged in passionate, daily sexual activity and we begin to feel that there is something wrong with us when our sex lives don’t match the Madison Avenue fantasies. Let go of those images today, because no one except you has the authority or knowledge to decide what your optimal sexual habits and practices should be. Your sexual expectations regarding frequency, sensation, and/or duration are only placing unneeded pressure on yourself and that pressure only creates more stress.

Let go of your expectations of performance too. Many of my patients and clients imagine they must achieve a certain level of sexual performance for their mates to be pleased. Nothing could be further from the truth. When you set expectations regarding outcomes, you set yourself up for failure because you are putting even more pressure on yourself. Let go of the end results; concentrate on the fun, joy, and love inherent in sex because that is where the true pleasure is found.

Let go of sexual frequency and performance expectations, smile, laugh with yourself, and go along with whatever unfolds as a result of your footwork today. If you can do these things you will be a very sexual, passionate creature and sexy in the most important eyes of all – yours! Remember that you are already perfect (perfectly imperfect) and you don’t need fixing. Instead of fixing yourself, use the natural medicine of humor to relax, smile, and enjoy the ride.

My patient, Paul, committed himself not only to these three Fun Commandments, but also to my entire Fun Factor prescription. He and his partner did not morph into Casanova’s…but they didn’t care because they formed their own definition of sexuality based on fun, joy, and love. Over time Paul and his partner arrived at an open, honest, and fun expression of sexual passion, based on my Fun Commandments, with a frequency and zest that satisfied both.

By the way, what you don’t know about Casanova was that his true value to humankind was not as a red-hot lover, but as one of the most gifted and authoritative social historians of his age. He spent his last years as a librarian, before dying of syphilis. Still want to be just like him? I suggest using the natural medicine of humor to find your own sexual identity and enjoy a healthy satisfying sex life of your own creation.

Sex Scandals

Every time I turn on the television or read a newspaper these days it seems that there is another politician or celebrity who has been involved in a sexual scandal.

Whether it involves prostitution rings, bathroom solicitations for homosexual encounters, child perpetrators, extra-marital affairs, pornography or multiple-partner liaisons, it seems to be rather complex and disturbing to not only those close to them but also many individuals in society.

We cannot help but wonder why people who invest years of their lives into developing a career and family will risk it all for sex.

One Medicine Hat lawyer is very wise in his warnings to others. He states “You can spend a lifetime developing a reputation and then lose it all in a second”. Some theorists believe that many people in power they think they are above the law and can do as they please. Others believe that those involved think they can purchase enough confidentiality to protect themselves from “getting caught”. A third group argues that those who are involved either consciously or subconsciously desire to get caught because they desperately want help.

There are three types of response that follow the media revelations. The first involves denial. The individual adamantly rejects any accusations and states that s/he will not be leaving whatever job or position is held. Sometimes other individuals show support through character references. It has become common to view wives who stand in silence beside the podium while her husband reads from a prepared statement.

Over time and when further information is revealed, we often hear a second type of response which involves admitting to the behaviours and then apologizing to family and society. This is usually accompanied by promises to seek out treatment and then work within the community to help others in similar situations.

The third response comes from those who admit that they were involved but deny that there is anything “wrong” with what they did. They argue that they are entitled to do as they wish because public and private matters do not overlap.

Regardless of the response that the person chooses, there are consequences. Partners are usually shocked, children are embarrassed and careers are jeopardized. Some cases even result in criminal charges or jail terms because of associated activities.

No matter what is said, it is interesting to consider how long the collective memory of society can be. Even when the individual uses his or her situation to improve the lot of others, it seems that the memory of the “original sin” is strong.

Decades after a scandal becomes media fodder, the people involved are remembered for their involvement in it. It seems a shame that people don’t understand the full impact and consequences that their choices will bring before they begin acting out their fantasies. The media would have a lot less to report when it comes to sex scandals.

Sexual Healing – Still The Best Medicine

During sexual intercourse, there are noticeable and scientifically measurable changes in the rate of breathing, heartbeat, blood circulation, perspiration and glandular secretions of both partners. Less noticeable but equally present are changes in emotional energy and brain wave energy vibrations. All these have varying modifying effects on the whole body.

The efficacy of therapeutic love-making rests on the knowledge that some rhythmic movements, some sexual intercourse positions, certain postures, and sexual activities produce and re-direct energy flow patterns within the body of copulating partners.

By adopting certain sexual positions, and controlling the rhythm and tempo of love-making, the therapeutic benefits of sexual intercourse can be activated. The fundamental principle behind sexual healing is the circulation rather than dissipation of sexual energy.

There are several of these healing postures and rhythms; and their efficacy depends on the man’s ability to control ejaculation, and the woman’s readiness to circulate healing energy.

The woman’s sexual role is very important for effective generation of the restorative and healing powers of sex. She must wholly and happily surrender herself to give sexual pleasure without reservations; and to receive sexual pleasure without reservations. That way, she opens up her awesome powers of rejuvenation that has a limitless potential to heal both herself and her partner.

The hidden potency in sex as a source of mutual healing and rejuvenation can only be experienced through wise and correct indulgence in sexual intercourse. Correct sexual experience improves vitality, increases mental power, stabilizes the emotions, balances the elements, and illumines the spirit.

A passionate, harmonious and balanced sex life promotes good health, creativity and productivity through a natural and smooth alignment of Mind and Body. When there is no inhibition and no suppression of erotic feelings and fantasies, high levels of sexual freedom and ecstasy is attained by the couples; and this generates and circulates strong healing energy within their bodies.

Sexual desire in man and woman is natural. It is perfectly normal to have erotic sexual feelings and fantasies, and you should express it, not only responsibly but also respectfully, in ways that heal and restore the body, stimulate the mind, and uplift the spirit of Man.

There is superlative healing power in sex. When practiced correctly, sex can heal and rejuvenate the whole body – physically, emotionally and spiritually. On the other hand, incorrect sexual practices can deplete mental, spiritual, emotional and physical energy. Sex can bind, and sex can liberate the spirit of man.